Monday, September 17, 2012

I think everyone needs to read this post.

it's ego freaks and drama queens: Why rape jokes are uniquely bad. 
anotherfeminist: TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE, RAPE JOKES, RAPE APOLOGISM

afternoonsnoozebutton: Apologies in advance for the really serious post, but I think I’ve actually made my point pretty well in the text below and it’d mean a lot to me if you’d read it. Trigger warning for rape and sexual violence.

I want to prove two things:
1. Rape is a unique crime not comparable to being robbed or murdered. 
2. The unique nature of rape makes rape jokes especially heinous. This post is a sort-of response to a question I got this morning.


Rape is a unique crime. Rape is not like murder or being robbed, rape is a type of torture - an exceptionally malicious act that has, at its core, no purpose except to inflict exceptional pain on you. It’s an act where the perpetrator not only wants to hurt you in a uniquely personal way, but enjoys the violation. Rape is so much more than just the act of sex - it destroys your bodily and sexual autonomy.

To rape is not merely to deny someone’s will, but to deny them their very personhood. The humiliation and shame experienced by rape victims is completely unique; they experience complete subjugation and the intimate loss of control of their own bodies.

A few weeks ago, I was mugged at gunpoint on North Carolina Ave. in Southeast DC. Now, if I’m ever back there, I’ll be much more apprehensive of my safety than I would’ve been before. This is pretty common - when you experience a violation, the area of the violation no longer feels safe. With rape, the area of violation is your own body. Jokes about rape are uniquely horrible. A recent joke that “comedian” Daniel Tosh made about how funny it would be if a girl was raped created a little bit of an internet shitstorm, forcing him to semi-apologize on Twitter. He followed up his apology with this Tweet:


(Personally, I find dead baby jokes a little bit gross.) “How do you get 10 babies into a jar? Blender. How do you get them out? Nachos.” Dead baby jokes, though, operate on in an area entirely removed from reality - nobody who tells that joke is actually contemplating using a baby as hummus, and functionally 0% of people know anyone who’s ever thought about or attempted to eat a pulverized baby.

Compare that to the prevalence of rape in the status quo. It’s estimated that 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Now, if 1 in 3 babies was killed and eaten with tortilla chips, people would think of it not as a joke, but as a horribly serious reality.

Murder jokes are less heinous for a similar reason. The national homicide rate is 4.8 per 100,000 people, meaning that the chance a given person hearing a murder joke will actually be killed is 00.0048%. The chance that you’ll actually trigger a terrible flashback from someone who’s been nearly murdered is damn low.

What really makes the difference between murder jokes and rape jokes, though, is not just the statistics. Murder is something that is taken extremely seriously in our society. Report rates are pretty high, and victims of attempted murder don’t need to worry that they’ll be accused of “asking for it” or being told that what happened to them isn’t a big deal. To be clear, I’m not justifying jokes about homicide.

Jokes about rape serve to make rape less serious. People who enjoy rape jokes commonly want to be told that rape isn’t a big deal, that it’s just sex, and that other people think so, too. A study of unreported acquaintance rapists done by Hinck and Thomas in 1999 found that “These individuals’ propensity to rape was significantly related not only to their acceptance of rape myths and of traditional ideas about male and female sexuality, but also to their belief that male sexual aggression is normal.”

That doesn’t mean that anyone who’s ever laughed at a rape joke is a future rapist. What it does mean is that these jokes provide the ammunition that these people need to justify themselves and think, “Hey, rape is not that big of a deal. It’s funny. Look, they all think so, too.”

Furthermore, the fact that rape isn’t taken seriously or that the blame is attributed to the woman keeps more women from coming forward, seeking justice for themselves, or even from getting counseling. After all, if rape isn’t that big of a deal, and if it was possibly their fault, there’s really no point. Every time a rape victim hears a rape joke, not only can the victim flash back to the rape and relive the experience in excruciating detail, but the victim also has to experience that mindfuck with the invalidation of suffering that comes with the levity of a joke.

To sum up: Rape is a type of torture, and rape victims experience severe psychological trauma that goes well beyond the physical damage. The prevalence of sexual assault makes it much more likely that either a rapist or a rape victim will hear a given joke about rape.
-Rape jokes perpetuate our society’s fucked up belief that rape isn’t serious. 
-Rape jokes empower would-be rapists.
-Rape jokes further harm the victims of rape.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Sperm cells created from female embryo

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Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/science-news/3323846/Sperm-cells-created-from-female-embryo.html

So what I'm getting from this article is that it may be possible in the future to create sperm from female bone marrow cells, creating the possibility for lesbian couples to have biological offspring. That's some pretty interesting news from the science world. The strides they have been making in the reproductive health field are very impressive.

In other reproduction news: I don't know if I posted about the male contraceptive article but I'll go ahead and add that one later just in case. 

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

This helps me a lot when I'm depressed. :)


People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may just never be enough; Give the world the best you have anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it’s all between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.
-credited to Mother Teresa

Friday, August 3, 2012

Legalize Love

LEGALIZE LOVE

It's unclear whether this campaign is actually endorsed by President Obama, but it was created to raise awareness and promote his re-election. President Obama recently made history as the first President to come out in support of same-sex marriage, stating "I've just concluded that, for me personally, it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married," in an interview with ABC News. President Obama is a prime example of LGBT progression. During his election campaign, he admitted that he supported civil unions, but was unsure of whether he could give his support to same-sex marriage because of his religious beliefs. He later said that his position on same-sex marriage was "evolving", and now here we are. Lets hope that the rest of our great nation can evolve on this issue and realize that love is love is love, and that same-sex couples deserve the same rights as everyone else.

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Revamp of SymphonicLove.com

Hey there!
I'm sure you've noticed something different about this site, right? I've added new sections to include more interests and stuff for you to enjoy! The "Read" page will have a feed containing posts and reblogs from our tumblr page. The "Watch" page will be posts of videos we enjoy and would like to share. I've also added a "Discussion" page where we have a new forum! Enjoi! :)

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

New projects on the horizon! Stay tuned.... :)